Why women are drawn to men who have options — and how to project that effortlessly.
If you’ve ever wondered, “How do I show a woman I have options… without looking like a jerk?” you’re not alone. It’s one of the most common questions men ask me — and honestly, it’s one of the most misunderstood parts of attraction.
Here’s the simple truth most dating advice totally misses:
If a woman believes you have options, the entire dynamic changes.
Suddenly she’s more invested. More responsive. Less flaky. She shows up, she reciprocates, she stops playing nonsense games. Every man wants that — and the way to get there is through something psychologists call Mate Choice Copying.
Mate choice copying means women instinctively find a man more desirable when other women desire him. They assume other women must be seeing qualities in you that are worth wanting. In other words: women trust the “proof of work” from other women.
But here’s the part men screw up:
You can’t tell her you have options… and you definitely can’t brag about it. That comes off insecure, try-hard, or flat-out disrespectful. And when a woman feels insecure around you, she doesn’t lean in — she pulls back.
The real art is projecting options subtly, playfully, and confidently.
In the video, I break the entire process down into three parts:
1. The Psychology (because if you mess this up, nothing else works)
Nice guys especially struggle with this. You avoid conflict, you hate tension, and you confuse “being nice” with being a gentleman. But attraction requires tension. When a woman senses you have options, she naturally brings her best self to the interaction — not because you manipulate her, but because she feels she’s dealing with a man other women already value.
2. Practical Techniques That Don’t Make You Look Like a Tool
These are not bragging tactics — they are playful, subtle ways to imply options without ever sounding bitter or boastful.
For example, teasing a woman about traits she has —
“I’m keeping my eye on you. I’ve dated your type before.”
— creates fun challenge, shows experience, and frames you as selective… without disrespecting her or any other woman.
Later in a situationship, you can lean into flattery blended with comparison:
“Of all the girls I’ve dated, you’re the only one who does that little nose thing… it’s weirdly adorable.”
It’s light. It’s fun. And it communicates exactly what it needs to.
3. The Real-Life Story (that proves how powerful this is)
In the video I share one of the wildest dating stories from my bartender days — a time when a girl who firmly friend-zoned me suddenly flipped and invited me to her room at 5am… after she saw two other women openly interested in me.
Do I recommend living like that? No. I was in my own chaotic era.
But the psychology is undeniable:
A man with options is a man women pursue.
If you want the full breakdown — including the examples, the psychology, and exactly how to apply this without being toxic or manipulative — watch the full video.
