This is one of the most common questions I get from guys I coach:
“When should I make my move?”
They’ve got a date lined up. The conversation is going well. The vibe is there.
But the moment creeps up… and they freeze.
They overthink it.
They wait.
And then?
They get the dreaded text the next day:
“You’re such a nice guy, but…”
Brutal.
Here’s what you need to understand:
Women don’t go on dates looking for a new friend.
They want something to happen.
They want a man who can feel the moment — and lead it.
That doesn’t mean being aggressive.
It means being intentional.
It means not hesitating when the window opens.
Because shooting your shot, even if it doesn’t land, is a show of confidence.
And confidence is attractive — hesitation is not.
Build the Tension First
The best time to make your move is after you’ve built real tension.
This is where verbal and physical escalation come in.
I’m not talking about cheesy lines or over-the-top moves.
I’m talking about creating an emotional and physical rhythm where a kiss (or more) feels natural — not forced.
That means:
Closing the space between you
Using playful teasing and flirty banter
Touching casually when it fits the moment
Watching how she responds
Introduce the Kiss Before It Happens
One of the smoothest moves you can make?
Just tell her you want to kiss her — at the right moment.
Not at the very end of the date when you’re both tired.
Not when she’s halfway out the door.
But at a high point — when energy is peaking and you’re both in it.
I’d say this exact line:
“I don’t know what is it, but I really want to kiss you right now..”
This isn’t a request for permission.
It’s a matter-of-fact statement.
It shows a self-assured attitude.
And when the moment comes, it feels right.
And If It’s Awkward?
That’s okay.
That awkward tension you’re feeling?
That’s sexual tension. It’s a good thing.
Don’t run from it. Don’t kill it with over-talking.
Lean into it.
Because when you hesitate too long, you lose the edge.
You lose the momentum.
And that’s when she goes cold — even if she was feeling it earlier.
