If you’ve tried “everything” to improve your dating results, but nothing is working, you’re not broken—you’re stuck. Here are the three biggest reasons men stay stuck in dating, plus simple fixes you can apply today.
1) No Positive Male Models (and No One Challenging You)
If your circle isn’t full of men who are winning with the kind of women you want, you’ll normalize struggle. Worse, no one is calling out your blind spots.
Fix: curate your inputs. Socialize with other men who make dating success feel normal, not rare. Seek men who both model success and challenge your limiting stories (“I’m too old,” “women only want X,” etc.). Borrow their standards until they become yours.
2) “I Improved My Style”… But Not Really
Most guys upgrade from a 4 to a 6 and stop. The issue is either low self-awareness (you don’t see what your look signals) or fear (you don’t believe you can pull off a sharper image).
Fix: get ruthless, outside feedback, and don’t take it personally.
3) White-Knuckling the Process
When you’re tense, every interaction feels like a verdict. That reads as needy, unfun, and uncalibrated—and you stop learning because your ego is in the way.
Fix: swap force for feedback.
Process goals: “Start 3 playful conversations” beats “Get a number.”
Post-rep notes: 60 seconds after each interaction—what got a smile, what fell flat, what to tweak.
Adjust over time: Implement what works and what feels natural. Make peace with the fact that you won’t figure it all out after five approaches.
Bottom line
Change your inputs (men you’re around), upgrade your signal (style that actually communicates), and shift your state (from gripping to learning). Do that, and “nothing is working” turns into steady momentum.
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