How to get out of a rut and get back in shape

Caution to the reader – this is not a quick-fix miracle strategy. However, this fucking works. I promise you it works. And I know because I’ve done it myself, and so have thousands of others.

Table of Contents

First, How I Fell into a Rut.

It’s normal for people to go through different phases of mental physical health.

In my life, I would go hard in the gym for 6-9 months, then life would get busy, and I’d fall off. Sometimes for a month or two, sometimes for more.

Still, I would always find my way back into a healthy rhythm.

I embraced positivity, had a booming business, and was enthusiastic for life. Not every day was perfect, but for the most part I was happy.

Then came Covid.

The lockdowns through me way out of wack. During the lockdowns I tried to do living room workouts and outdoor runs. We bought resistance bands, dumbbells, and we even got a peloton.

I always loved weightlifting, so it was hard for me to stay engaged. Doing pushups on the carpet and jogging outside was uninspiring, and eventually, I stopped working out altogether.

I was also on unemployment for the better half of that year, and being unable to work, I drank a lot more, played video games, and stayed up late on a daily basis. Sprinkle in the tragic loss of a best friend (unrelated to covid), the loss of another friend (because of covid), and the loss of my first business, I found myself in a pretty dark place.

Once the gyms reopened, I tried to get back into the swing of things. I’d do well for 3 or 4 days and then take the next week off.

They had a strict capacity limit, and people had to reserve a time to go. Once I got back to work, it was challenging to predict what time I could make it to the gym.

Eventually, I found myself in a very anxious and depressed state.

I was in the worst shape of my life. I was drinking every day. I was sleeping in. I was eating like crap and continued to spiral well into 2021.

For a year and a half, every attempt I made at getting back into a healthy rhythm would fail after a week or two. I needed to shock my system.

Also Read: 5 Delicious Meals Every Man Should Know How to Cook (step by step)

How I Got Out

I started doing some research. I probably Googled the same thing you did.

“How to get out of a rut?”

I read blog posts and watched YouTube videos. Nothing was inspiring me. Then I found it.

75 Hard.

I found an episode on the Real AF podcast by Andy Frisella. The episode spoke to my soul.

He basically called out everything I had going on. The bad habits. The patterns. The vicious cycle of letting yourself down over and over. The lack of mental toughness and confidence. It was like he had been studying me.

He also had a solution called 75 Hard.

The program is a 75-day mental and physical health challenge. Andy would say that it’s not a health challenge but a mental challenge because you need to be mentally tough to complete this challenge.

As soon as I heard the podcast, I felt inspired. I knew I had to do it.

75 Hard Summarized

Completing this program may have saved my life.

This program is intimidating, so please listen to the podcast and read my testimony before writing it off. I linked to it at the end of this post.

Here it is:

  • 75 Days
  • Two 45-minute workouts a day (one indoor and one outdoor)
  • Follow a healthy diet of your choice
  • Read 10 pages of a self-help book every day
  • Take a progress pic every day
  • No drinking alcohol
  • 1 Gallon of water per day

And the worst part…

If you mess up on anything, even one time, you have to start over.

In the podcast, Andy explains this is about building mental toughness and discipline. Although exercise is a big part of the program, the goal is creating new habits and changing your mindset.

“Habits aren’t broken in 21 days. It takes at least 75.”

My Review

I’ll break my review down by each part of the challenge.

Pro Tip: Get a friend, a spouse, or a group of people to do the challenge with you. I know I would’ve failed if I didn’t have my fiance in it with me.

Two 45-minute workouts a day (one indoor and one outdoor)

Look. The idea here is that you’re in a rut and need to shock your system.

If you can commit to this, you can commit to anything.

The rules are simple. The workouts must be at least 3 hrs apart, so you can’t do one long workout and do half inside and half outside. IT’S SUPPOSED TO SUCK.

But you’re trying to prove that you can regain your mental toughness and self-discipline. It’s about more than just physical results. It’s about learning to get in a rhythm of embracing the suck and grinding it out.

In the beginning it was like, where do people get the time? At the end, two workouts a day was a breeze.

The main change?

Planning ahead, preparation, and mentally adapting to the grind, which happens naturally after several weeks of repeating the behavior.

We would do an outdoor walk with our dog for 45 mins and then hit the gym for 45 mins. Looking back, I miss those walks.

But, there were many challenging days.

Life happens. We had one workout at 11 pm on a Sunday because our flight was delayed returning home. We had several outdoor walks in blizzards. Like, I was literally wearing ski gear and goggles. People thought we were crazy, but we did it, and we could hold our heads high.

Paired with my healthy diet, I put on 15 lbs. of muscle in 75 days. That would have taken me a year even when I was routinely exercising.

Following the challenge, I’ve been consistently in the gym for two years, the longest stretch of my life. And by consistently, I mean at least 3-4 days a week.

Follow a Healthy Diet of Your Choice

You can pick any healthy diet of your choice. Key word is HEALTHY.

Mine was as follows:

  • Macro tracking – 3,500 calories per day. 200 grams of protein, 150 grams of carbs, and 100 grams of fat give or take.
  • No processed meats
  • No fried or greasy foods
  • No processed or added sugars


My goal was to put on muscle. I’ve always been a hard gainer, and this was as good as any time to try. I had been told that if you start eating big, your stomach will adjust, but it was difficult initially.

I found myself eating until midnight on weekdays, trying to squeeze in the last few bites needed to hit my goals. Eventually, I learned how to eat smarter, and preparation was key.

There were several days when I didn’t plan accordingly, and I found myself scrambling for food. It can get tricky because if you still have a lot of eating to do at 10 pm on a Tuesday, healthy options are limited.

In the end, I felt terrific. No sugar, no fried foods, and no alcohol will make you feel like a new person.

Most importantly, I got into the habit of avoiding nasty foods. I eat significantly less fast food now than I used to. I learned to think ahead for healthy and tasty meals and allow myself only the occasional indulgence.

Read 10 Pages of a Self-Help Book Every Day

This was such a pleasant surprise. After 75 days I had become a reader! Now I look forward to reading every day.

I was never a reader before 75 Hard. During the challenge, I found that reading my 10 pages while in bed would put me right to sleep.

No more getting stuck in the Netflix vortex and staying up later than I wanted.

I would simply read and sleep. If I wasn’t sleepy after ten pages, I’d keep reading until I couldn’t keep my eyes open.

Now a year and a half later, I’ve read a couple dozen books, mainly of the space sci-fi genre, but also a handful related to work. It’s just another long-term habit I’ve formed.

I also took a lot away from the self-help books I read.

Here’s what I read:

  • The Secret by Rhonda Byrne
  • Millionaire Success Habits by Dean Graziosi
  • Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert

That was my second time reading The Secret, but it had been a long time. Boy did I need the reminder. If you haven’t read it, read it! Like, yesterday.

Take a Progress Pic Every Day

This part seems trivial, but it’s about learning to do the small things every day.

Taking progress pics is fun for tracking your progress but extremely easy to forget. It’s so small and takes two seconds, which is why so many people space it.

And isn’t that what happens when we’re in a rut? We don’t keep our affairs in order, and little things fall through the cracks. So, don’t overlook this part of the challenge.

Andy warns that this is the part of the challenge that trips up the most people. It’s the small, trivial disciplines that make a big difference compounded over time.

No Drinking Alcohol

Without a doubt, this is the portion that deters the most people. Giving up alcohol for 75 days is hard, and there is never a convenient time.

We did 75 Hard during the winter and through the holidays. I didn’t drink on Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year’s. I timed it so that the first weekend back to drinking was in time for the Super Bowl.

Initially, it was hard, but I was fired up and committed. After a few weeks, I stopped getting the cravings and started to see improvement in the following areas:

  • Falling asleep
  • Quality of sleep
  • Daily energy
  • Emotional positivity
  • Muscle recovery
  • Clearer skin

Where it got challenging was family gatherings and holidays. Honestly, the only time it really sucked was New Year’s.

We had a big dinner with friends, and I wanted a cocktail. We were 40 or so days in at that point, so nothing was getting in my way, but I wanted it.

I’ll say this, though – I almost wish I hadn’t started drinking again.

I felt great not drinking, and I still had a great time at most social gatherings. I was able to drive home, and I felt great every day.

The big difference maker was that when I started drinking again, I drank less often, and drank less quantity.

I really noticed how much money we saved too. The runs to the liquor store, the drinks at dinner, and the Ubers to get around add up to hundreds of dollars a month, maybe more.

If you have a big goal in mind, alcohol is probably your worst enemy, and 75 Hard is a great way to break that dependency.

Drink One Gallon of Water Every Day

I’ve always been someone who drinks a lot of water.

I think there’s plenty of research that shows how important hydration is. That said, a gallon is probably overkill for most people, especially those who enjoy coffee, tea, and other beverages throughout the day.

I’m not one of those people, so water consumption was easy. It’s just another one of those things that’s easy to forget.

The only time this got hard was when I was forcing myself to eat at the end of the night and then remembered I had 32 oz of water left to drink.

Again, I learned to think ahead and prepare. I knew that if I wanted to avoid chugging water before bed, I had to drink certain quantities by specific times of the day.

This once again reinforced those small habits that make it easy to slip.

 

End Result

  • I felt SO much better mentally and emotionally
  • I got back into a “grind it out” mentality and have sustained it since
  • I put on muscle and gained strength in a way I never had before
  • I became a reader, which is excellent for knowledge, pleasure, and falling asleep
  • I built confidence and mental toughness
  • I improved my self-esteem
  • I confronted my demons
  • I learned how to manage my inner bitch voice (the voice that talks you out of doing the work)

And most importantly

I got out of my rut and back into shape!

Please, friends, if you’re in that hard place and can’t get out of your own way, listen to the podcast. You’ll know right away that this program is what you need.

Listen here: https://andyfrisella.com/blogs/realaf-podcast/14-75hard-a-tactical-guide-to-winning-the-war-with-yourself

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