If you’re newly single or struggling to find a date, then you might wonder – where are the best places to meet women? How in the world are you supposed to approach them?
I know that many people have transitioned to online dating, but let’s face it, if you don’t look like a Ken Doll, it can be hard to get that match.
If you ask me, in-person dating is still king, but where are the best places for you to meet women?
Timing and approach are even more critical. Combine the two, and you’ll be in great shape. Here are my top 5 best places to meet women.
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Co-Ed Rec Leagues
Here’s the thing about co-ed rec leagues: almost everyone in them is single and looking to meet people.
People drink during the games, aren’t overly competitive, and most leagues have a meet-up spot for all the teams after games are finished.
The other huge plus is that games are played every week, so if you meet a woman you like the first week, chances are you’ll see her again.
This means you can take your time getting to know the different women on your team and the other groups. It’s important because you want to wait for a connection to develop without forcing it.
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Approach:
Join with another guy friend or two.
Be patient and feel things out. Some girls will have boyfriends or be dating someone. Most of the women will also join with friends. You want to take your time getting to know everyone’s story before making any moves.
If you strike out with a girl on your team, chances are she’ll tell the other girls you asked her out. This will make it much more difficult to hit on any other girls, so make sure you pick the right one.
When you finally decide to ask someone on a date, it’s best to wait until you find yourselves in a one-on-one situation. This could be during a water break or waiting for beers at the after-party following a game.
Waiting in Line
This is my absolute favorite. It’s a passive one-on-one approach and has a high rate of success.
Suppose you are standing in line next to an attractive woman. This is a prime opportunity to start a conversation.
Waiting in line means literally waiting in line anywhere.
- The airport
- The beer line
- Outside the bar
- Sporting events
- Concerts
Anywhere that will allow you 5-10 minutes of uninterrupted conversation.
The best part is that the conversation will naturally end when you reach the front of the line, so there’s no pressure to hurry. Just keep an eye on the line and make your move before you’re through the line.
Approach:
Ask questions. Lots of them.
Search for common ground. If you’re waiting in line to board a flight, you can ask, “What’s taking you to California?”.
One time I used this line waiting to board a flight to Arizona. I hit it off with the girl, and we sat together on the plane. We had drinks on the plane, exchanged contact info, and connected when we got home.
When it comes time to ask for her number, use this line:
“Hey, I know it’s only been a few minutes since we met, but I’d really like to see you again. Would it be okay if I got your number?”.
OR
If you’re at a bar:
“My friends and I are having drinks over there. Why don’t you grab your friends and come have a drink with us?”
Trust me, guys, this one works!
The Bar Top
This is another passive approach that is highly effective.
Anytime you get dinner alone, make sure you’re sitting at the bar top.
You’ll get lucky every so often, and a pretty lady will sit at the bar top next to you. Or, when you walk in, there may be a seat near a woman already at the bar top.
Approach:
It’s crucial to have situational awareness.
If the woman sits down and doesn’t say a word except to order her food, she probably doesn’t want to be approached. Don’t be annoying.
You’re looking for the girl conversing with the bartender or other patrons. Pay attention to the conversation. If there’s a moment when you have something to offer to the conversation, don’t be afraid to hop in.
Sometimes you’ll overhear part of the conversation with the bartender. After the bartender walks away, you can say something like:
“I overheard that you recently moved here. How are you liking it so far?”
OR
“I overheard you’re in town for a conference? What’s that industry like?”.
Let the conversation run its course naturally. You might be surprised how often this works out. If you feel some chemistry, ask her out.
Pro Tip: If you start with a question about something boring like work, find a way to add humor, and don’t let that topic drag on. It shouldn’t feel like an interview, and you don’t want to be boring.
After the conversation fizzles, use this line:
“I’ve really enjoyed catching up with you tonight. Would you like to grab a drink sometime?”.
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Faith-Based Events
Spirituality is a compelling force in people’s lives.
You’ll want to have beliefs in-line with the event you attend because using religion or spirituality to get laid isn’t chill.
Attending one of these events means you’re checking a massive box in this woman’s life just by being there. Often times people will meet for a bite and a beer after the event. Take advantage of this one!
Approach:
Become a regular and/or volunteer.
I attended church on Thursdays, and the service was specifically aimed at adults between 20-30 years of age. They would encourage singles to meet! It was great.
Get to know people naturally and see if a spark forms.
Many churches, temples, etc., offer volunteer opportunities, and that’s a great place to make new friends and meet women. If you come across as genuine and single, chances are someone will try to set you up, so play it cool.
PLEASE, don’t be a scumbag and go to get laid. Show up with good intentions. Meet awesome people. Make real connections.
Day Clubs & Brunch Bars
Women are more approachable during the day.
I can’t confirm why, but my theory is that women are more open to meeting men during the day because there is less riding on the conversation.
They know you’re probably not expecting them to come home and sleep with you at 1pm, so what’s the harm in some friendly banter?
Depending on where you live, there might be some spots around town that are popular day drinking spots. I’m talking about a pool or an outdoor area with music and a DJ.
I always found it much easier to approach women while day drinking vs. a loud, crowded bar at night where every dude is trying to make his move. There’s usually less competition during the day, and women seem more open to meeting people.
Approach:
Whenever you’re thinking about approaching women at a bar or club, I recommend only approaching groups of three or fewer. What’s better, though, is if the conversation can start naturally.
Try to put yourself in situations where things don’t seem forced.
- Order a drink at the bar, where you see a couple girls waiting for drinks.
- Start a game of volleyball or bags.
- If there’s a pool, walk up and ask how the water is. They’ll say it’s fine, and then you can ask if you and your friend(s) can join them.
Final Thought
Every place I mentioned above has worked for me countless times.
Be confident in your approach. Be conscious of your surroundings and be on the lookout for opportunities. Again, timing is everything.
Keep this in mind too. Rejection is a reality of dating.
Nothing will hold you back like the fear of rejection, so it’s best to accept it now and move forward confidently. Be secure in yourself and the value you bring as a man.
We are all incredibly unique, so we will only be an ideal match for some, and that’s okay.
Best of luck, gents!
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