Passive dating is my favorite way to connect with women.
In my experience, it creates the best connections. It sparks the most interest because, in almost all situations, you’re talking to a complete stranger.
So, what is passive dating?
The idea is that when your lucky stars align, you’re ready to make your move.
Passive dating is the act of seeking natural opportunities to approach and connect with women, usually in unexpected situations. It involves being ready for the lucky moment and taking advantage of opportunities to meet girls, get their numbers, and start dating them.
Read More: First Date Tips for Men: Everything You Need to Know (Full Guide)
It’s called passive because, in these scenarios, you’re not actively looking to meet women. Instead, you’re going about your daily life, but you’re prepared to pounce when the door opens for an easy connection.
We’ll dive into some examples below.
Waiting in Line
By far, my favorite place to meet girls is waiting in line.
It may sound ridiculous, but hear me out. We spend A LOT of time waiting in lines.
According to Waitwhile’s study, The State of Waiting in Line (2022), Americans spend roughly 37 billion hours each year waiting in line. Where are they waiting the most?
Retail stores and restaurants topped the list, with airports at number six.
So, statistically speaking, you will likely be stuck waiting somewhere while standing next to a beautiful woman. And what better opportunity for a one-on-one conversation? The best part? She won’t expect it, and the conversation is usually a pleasant way to pass the time.
I realized over the years, especially at bars, that women are much more receptive when an approach seems natural. There’s nothing more natural than being stuck in line together.
For example, suppose you spark up a conversation at a busy bar while you and a girl are waiting in line for drinks. In that case, that feels a lot more natural than you abruptly approaching her table and interrupting her conversation. I used to see a girl I liked and intentionally go to order a drink at the same time as her. It worked wonderfully.
The same goes for airports. I once met a girl standing in line for a flight, which turned into having drinks on the plane and exchanging numbers.
Read More: Improving Your Confidence: Dating Advice for Men (2023)
Dinner at the Bar Top
If you are a single man, you should NEVER eat alone at a table. Period.
Why? To start, that’s just depressing, but more importantly, you’re missing out on a golden opportunity.
If you frequent a local restaurant or bar for dinner, chances are that good-looking women are sitting at the bar top on a nightly basis. And the chances are also that these women are single and ready to meet somebody.
Remember the whole thing about being natural? When you sit at the bar, you set yourself up for women to naturally sit in your proximity.
Now, all you need is the game to spark a conversation and get the phone number.
Outside the Bar or Club
Another natural way to connect with girls is by talking to them while waiting outside the bar or club.
At most popular bars, there are usually people standing outside trying to determine their plans. Do they want to wait in the long line or try a different spot?
If you’ve mastered passive dating, you’re on the lookout for situations like these. There’s usually at least one group of women standing outside or in the line, waiting to get in. If your group is doing the same thing, it’s a golden opportunity to spark a conversation. All you need is the right approach.
You can also approach women as they’re leaving. One of my favorite pickup lines is, “Hey, girls! How is it in there? Worth the wait?”.
If they say no, ask them where they’re going next and if they’d like you and your friends to join them. If they say yes, ask them why they’re leaving and see where they’re going next. “How about I grab your number? If you like the next bar, you can text me, and we’ll meet you there in a bit.”
Read More: How to Meet Women at Your Coed Sports League
Final Thought
If you’re prepared, you can meet women in any number of random situations.
The point of passive dating is to be ready for opportunities to meet women in situations that occur naturally. Play out different scenarios in your head. How would you open the conversation? Would you have something funny to say?
Once you get this down, you’ll find that making connections naturally feels much better than forced approaches and conversations.
