Relationships

The Best Relationship Advice for Men in 2023

Many men find themselves struggling in romantic relationships. Maybe they struggle to find romantic partners or are unhappy and unfulfilled in their long-term relationship.

There are plenty of ways we can increase our chances of having a fulfilling romantic relationship without settling.

This dating advice can benefit any couple, even those happily married.

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Be a Good Guy, Not a Nice Guy

Be the guy who opens the door, not the doormat.

Treat her with respect. Talk to her like she’s a lady. Let her order first. Protect her. But DO NOT be a spineless nice guy who doesn’t know how to say no.

You are not a servant.

You’re a partner in a relationship.

It’s awesome to go out of your way to be nice to someone but stand up for yourself if they start making demands or commanding you around. Your partner should respect you and your boundaries.

You want to earn a woman’s respect by being a strong, respectable man, not by conforming to her version of a perfect man.

If you’re starting something new with a potential partner, showcase what a gentleman you are, but don’t act like a little bitch.

Only put a lady on a pedestal once she’s earned that love, and don’t try to win her affection with money and gifts. It comes off as desperate. I treat my wife like a queen, but in the beginning, she still proved that she deserved my love and respect, the same way I was proving I deserved hers.

Don’t give it all away when it’s not deserved.

Read: Reasons Your Girlfriend Breaks Up With You

Build the 6 Pillars of Life

This is some of the best relationship advice I can give you.

The 6 Pillars of Life is the foundation for a fulfilled life, and if you don’t build up these areas of your life, no respectable woman will want to be with you.

Focus on building these 6 areas of life. You’ll dramatically improve your relationships.

Physical Health
Mental Health
Emotional Health
Social Health
Spiritual Health
Financial Health

Know Your Non-Negotiables

The number one thing I see that’s making men (and women) unhappy in relationships is bending on your non-negotiables.

Your non-negotiables are things or behaviors that you know make you unhappy, but you let them slide.

In Your Relationship

There will be certain behavior you are not okay with. Do not back down on these things. Otherwise, you’re wasting time in a relationship that doesn’t make you happy.

For Example:

You know you need strong communication to feel fulfilled, but your partner is not emotionally available. Instead of making a change, you settle and rationalize the behavior you know makes you unhappy.

Sweeping things under the rug allows negative feelings to fester and crush our self-esteem.

I came out of my last relationship with a new perspective.

I became very familiar with what I could and could not accept in a partner and promised myself I wouldn’t make excuses for people anymore.

When you make this commitment to yourself, your next relationship is sure to flourish.

In Life

There are also the things you love most. Don’t give up the things that bring you joy to make someone happy.

For Example:

Playing Golf
Watching football
Alone time
Working out
Church or Temple
Guy’s trips
Mountain Biking
Hunting & Fishing

Whatever things you enjoy most, make these clear, especially in a new relationship, and do not negotiate these things.

You must also be prepared to respect your partner’s non-negotiables in return.

Your Beliefs

Many people will lose sight of their core system of beliefs when they get paired with the wrong partner.

Politics
Religion
Family Values
Morals
Ethics

Know what you stand for, and don’t change to make someone happy. Again, you’re just killing your soul when you do this.

I’m not saying you should be close-minded, but if you turn your back on your heart, you’ll lose a piece of yourself.

Don’t Give in to the Fear of Losing Her

Fear might stop you from doing what needs to be done.

People avoid tough conversations because they worry they will scare their partner away.

For example, if your girl likes to go out every Friday until 5 am and party at the club without you, this might make you uncomfortable.

Yes, you should be able to trust her, but this behavior is not conducive to a happy relationship. Anybody in a happy relationship can tell you that. So don’t let her manipulate things and say you don’t trust her enough.

And don’t avoid putting a stake in the ground if this is causing you pain. If she wants to break up over it, you have to be okay with that.

In the long run, you’ll feel way better that you respected yourself, and she’ll respect you more for not being a pushover.

Having healthy boundaries is not the same as having trust issues.

You may have low self-esteem if you’re constantly worried about your partner being unfaithful even when she hasn’t given you a reason not to trust her.

Ways to Overcome Insecurity in a Relationship

Learn Your Partner’s Love Language

Not everyone wants to receive love the same way.

Effective communication is vital to a healthy relationship. This builds on that idea.

The 5 Love Languages:

Words of Affirmation
Quality Time
Acts of Service
Gifts
Physical Touch

The disconnect happens when one person responds to one love language, and their partner responds to something different.

For Example:

You feel most loved when your partner gives you gifts, so you assume that giving your partner a gift will make them feel equally loved. But maybe their love language is words of affirmation. So what happens? They don’t feel as loved, and their lack of excitement over your gift makes you feel bad.

The best remedy is to have a conversation about what your love languages are. Each person has two primary love languages.

Take a quiz to find out what your love languages are https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language.

Be Prepared to Walk Away

You can’t find true love unless you’re willing to walk away.

Starting with the first date, you need to have the mentality that you will walk away if you don’t like how you’re treated.

Nobody will respect you if you tolerate behavior that makes you feel bad.

This could be your partner talking to an ex, cheating, or engaging in an emotional relationship with another person. None of these things are acceptable to any man who respects himself. Yet, men stay in relationships with women who do these things.

Why? Because they’re scared they won’t find someone else as good, which is bullshit.

Be prepared to walk away so that you can find what you deserve.

Don’t Air Out Your Dirty Laundry

NEVER tell friends and family about the details of your arguments.

If you tell your friends and family every time you get into an argument, it will make them dislike your lady, even if in secret. Or, at best, they’ll see your relationship in a negative light.

It’s essential to be comfortable resolving issues internally.

From an outsider’s perspective, you and your woman should always appear united. Plus, you should respect your partner enough to not share with others what takes place behind closed doors.

If you really need to talk to somebody else, hire a therapist.

It may seem easiest to confide in a family member or friend, but they usually give shitty relationship advice.

Never Argue in Public

I cannot stress this enough.

Fighting in public is so toxic. Not only does it make your relationship look weak in front of your social circle, but you both have to share in the humiliation of causing a scene in front of friends.

If a disagreement begins to escalate, let it go until later. Calling your partner out in front of friends will make your partner feel attacked and defensive.

Giving each other time to cool off is always better. You’ll be in a much better position to communicate later in private.

Have a conversation early in the relationship that you are not okay with fighting in public. I did this with my wife, and we always had that understanding. Whenever my wife does something that frustrates me, I wait until we’re home to discuss it.

By then, she’s more open to receiving what I say.

Follow Your Ambitions

Some men get complacent once they are in a relationship.

Some men are with women who don’t want to see them succeed.

Some men are with women who don’t believe in them and discourage taking risks or following their dreams.

Fuck that.

If you have dreams and ambitions, then follow them! Don’t give up on your dream because your partner thinks it won’t work out.

Any woman worth her salt will be thrilled to have a man who goes after what he wants. It doesn’t matter how big or small. If it’s important to you, don’t settle for less.

Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is the most powerful force in life (and relationships).

Being grateful for your partner, health, family, friends, job, and home brings more positive outcomes.

Find all the little things you can about your partner to be thankful for. Try to temper unrealistic expectations. We’re all just human, after all.

When you focus on the abundance of good your partner brings into your life, you naturally suffocate the negative things that are not as important.

Being grateful also makes people want to do more for you.

When both partners practice gratitude for each other, it creates a flow of doing more and more for each other and doing it happily.

If you always focus on the negative, your partner will respond to those feelings with more negativity.

Be a Force of Positivity

Want to ruin a good relationship fast? Be a cynic, pessimist, or complainer.

Most people don’t want to spend all their time with someone who loves to complain about everything.

Instead, inspire people with good energy, optimism, and a positive approach to life’s challenges.

Positive people are attracted to other positive people. If you remain in a negative mentality, you’ll attract negative people and push away positive people.

Stay in the Gym

Physical fitness is the foundation of a prosperous life. It’s the most critical thing you can improve.

It increases confidence, releases dopamine, and relieves stress. Not to mention being in good shape makes us more attractive.

All these things are extremely helpful in relationships.

Lots of people go to the gym just for mental and emotional benefits.

I notice a huge difference even from taking a few days off. My mind and body crave the release; if I don’t get it, I tend to be moody and more irritable.

Be Independent

You need to have a life outside of your relationship.

In fact, you should be busy as hell.

When men shift their lives around so that they can spend every waking moment with their girl, they suffocate her. It’s a turn-off if you always need the attention of your partner.

You should have a vibrant and flourishing social life outside of your relationship. You should also have a job, and every successful man should be pursuing something important outside of his 9-5.

Even a recreational hobby will work. Just make sure you’re still doing your own thing.

Be Giving in the Bedroom

The number one complaint I hear about men in the bedroom is that they only consider their own pleasure.

Women desire sexual satisfaction the same as men do.

Whenever you engage sexually, your primary goal should be to satisfy the woman. When you bring a woman to orgasm, it strongly reinforces all the positive emotions in your relationship.

Of course, no man I know can make every woman orgasm whenever he has sex, but you can certainly put in your best effort.

Focus on including more foreplay. Ask her about her preferences. Have conversations after sex and take note of what she likes best.

Pro Tip: Modern culture and porn have warped how many men view sex. Stop viewing women as objects built to please you. Try to cut back or stop watching porn altogether. The best way to improve your sex life is to make your woman the only source of your sexual pleasure.

Have a Plan for Your Future

If you don’t already, start writing a plan for your future.

Women lose interest fast when men become complacent. You should always aim to become a better man. No woman I know enters a committed relationship with a man and wants him to stay in the same place for the rest of his life.

Your future isn’t only about your job either. There are many different ways to improve yourself.

It could be your plan to address the 6 pillars of life. It could be how you plan to reconnect with your family or get closer to God. The important thing is that you have a written plan on the steps you plan to take to improve your life.

Let Your Lady Shine

It’s common for strong men to suck the air right out of the room in social situations.

Not only does it make it hard for others to enjoy their company, but it makes it hard for others to connect with your lady.

Give her space to speak and tell stories and crack jokes. Allow her to shine and talk about herself and her life. I see male partners constantly dominating and speaking over their ladies, making them feel unseen and unappreciated.

Pro Tip: When you and your lady start to speak simultaneously, try to let her go ahead with her response. It will make you look honorable, and she’ll appreciate it.

Embrace Your Masculinity

If you’re the type of guy who cowers to women because you’re ashamed of your toxic masculinity, then I’m here to beg you, please stop apologizing for what God intended you to be!

Masculinity is a tremendous force in the world, and you should embrace it.

That doesn’t mean acting like an arrogant d-bag, but you should be eager to become the manliest version of yourself.

Good women desire masculine men.

It’s only insecure women that search for weak men they can control.

Relationships aren’t about control; they’re about a mutual respect. You want a woman who will respect your manhood the same way you’ll respect her and protect her womanhood.

There’s no such thing as being too masculine as long as you treat women with respect.